It seems to me that guys have got lazy and girls have got easy to suit, or is it the other way around? Girls have got easy so guys have are now lazy because they don’t have to work for it anymore! why would you work hard for what you really wanted if someone a few doors down is practically giving it away? Now, if a girl doesn’t give it up right away she is labelled “frigid” or she is playing hard to get, not worth the hassle, a “tease” that sort of thing! Its ridiculous!
Back in the day when my Grandad courted my Nan, they went to wartime dances, he walked her the 5 miles home and didn’t complain about the long walk, or walk her half way home then leave her to walk the rest of the way. If my Grandad had done that then my Nan’s brothers would have gone out and shown him what for! Growing up I remember them always being together, my Grandad was quite moody, he was the Grumpy Grandad, but in photos of them growing together they both had a sparkle in their eyes. They where married for a long time, until my Nan passed away in 1996.
They had a typical relationship of that time, when my nan died, My mum had to teach my Grandad how to cook, and my Nan’s older sister used to help him with house work. He had depended on her their whole relationship and he knew it, But he loved her and respected her for who she was and what she did for him. My Grandad worked hard to provide the family with a home, and my Nan looked after it, as well as having her own job, earning her own money until she was 61!
Men need to start realising that if they want something good, then they are going to have to start working for it! You don’t get a nice house or car if you don’t go to work, So why should they be able to get a nice girl, who is going to look after them for the rest of their life if they aren’t prepared to work for that to?
I know now that times have changed, and there are career woman, and house husbands, But I still feel like guys these days are expecting too much too soon. Is is that girls these days are more concerned with being labelled frigid or hard to get, then being called easy or a slut, slag or even worse a whore-bag! I know what I would prefer any day of the week!!
Girls need to start standing up to these lazy ass guys, and show have some self respect, get some understanding of their worth and power. We seem to forget that we have the control in life, we say yes or no, we decide if the guy is worthy of us. Why are we letting so many sleazy guys get their own way? 9 times out of 10 they aren’t even worth a second date, let alone our bodies. So why do we put up with it? Fear of being alone, left on the shelf? Feeling like we don’t deserve better? Well if we carry on the way we are going then we don’t.
If we are looking for the one that deserves us, that we are going to spend our lives with then don’t we want to be sure that they are worth it? I’m going to make them work for it.
I’m a prize that has to be won, I am worth more than a guy taking me to Nandos one time and on the second date expecting more than what’s on offer, Sorry mate but I’m worth more than 1/4 of a chicken with spicy rice and free refills! Got to work harder than that!
I want wining and dining, a bit of romancing I’m sure will go a long way seeing as these days no one does it anymore! Don’t take this as I’m saying I want a guy to come along and feel like he has to pay for everything, I’m more than willing to pay my own way but the thought of a bit of romance would be nice. Thank You Please!
From now on I am going to make a point of working out if he is worth it. I made my last mistake with My Mystery Man, and that isn’t happening again!!
Please ladies and gents, girls and guys! Realise that we are all someone’s prize. We don’t have to make it easy for them. Maybe if people worked harder at the start of their relationship they would be more prepared to work harder for it when things get tough, and I know that I only plan on getting married once in this lifetime, I want to know that my future husband will fight for me and our relationship when the time comes.
Go and play…. hard to get…. but make sure they know the prize is worth it and your not just playing games!
On my final note…. WHO RUNS THE WORLD??