Tag Archives: Romance

With a New Year comes a New Contender

So I’m starting to realise that the sparks aren’t flying with me and M. I first met him when things ended with KIC and I was looking for someone to replace him or just to keep me busy so I wouldn’t sit there agonising over texting him!

I was a date whore, 7 dates in 7 days was the challenge I set myself and I almost did it. Two months later M is the only one other than L who is left on the scene but he’s my ex so that doesn’t count.

The last time I saw M was just before Christmas, he came over, we watched a film and then I fell asleep on him, I really miss that part of being in a relationship, it’s so nice instead of relying on two hot water bottles and strategically placed pillows to keep you warm in the night! I only dozed off so it wasn’t that bad, however when I woke up we had a little kiss and he put the moves on me, I wasn’t up for it, and I don’t think I am. I mean I enjoy the dating part with him, and the conversation, and he seems like a great guy and he has these lovely blue sparkly eyes, but there is no spark!!

I do wonder if I’m not over KIC, after new year and everything, he’s really ruffled my feathers, however, there is a new guy. I’m rather looking forward to going out on a date with him, he seems really cool, pretty down to earth and he has an amazing beard! Just like my type of guy! A few of my friends have always said with past guys, i’d never put you together, well I wonder what they will think of him?! He’s FIT! also initial M! There’s a new M in town! and he wears a beard rather well! 🙂

An Unexpected Date

This is sort of unbelievable so I just have to tell you all about it!

Me and Kate went out exploring on Wednesday, I almost had to bribe her out with a can of Relentless (She’s a total addict) I don’t think I have told you this before but Kate is also on POF and she has been chatting to this guy who lives quite near to where we live, She showed me his photos and i must say he’s quite alright. we don’t really have the same taste in men, apart from the almost disastrous meet with her looser ex! Anyway, They where texting away as we where out, He knew the place where we were so he was telling us where to go etc.

Kate had been talking to him about some of the other places we have been and he was really keen to come with us next time. So BRAINWAVE Kate asked him to come with us next time, and me not wanting to be a third wheel on that bike suggested that he bring someone along with him for moral support. It may be great being a guy with two hot chicks, but I didn’t want any of that action. So he said he would bring along his brother! Yes brother, that’s not the only thing, He is a twin! Bonus! Haha!

So it was planned, that on Monday we would meet up and go to this place and have a good look around with our very own good looking tour guides! Later that night, Kate text me and asked if she could give Twin my number, Of course that’s fine with me, and we have been texting ever since, well apart from when I have been sleeping and at work.

I’m rather looking forward to our date, Its something fun and exciting, and I have never been on a double date before so that aspect is also exciting, me and Kate have often talked about finding some guys to go on a double date with, I think its good to have some moral support and be with someone who you can be yourself around, and also is there as a back up if it all goes wrong!

Anyway better go, got another assignment to do. Boo!

As always I will keep you posted 🙂

Oooooo Excitorama!


French Kissing

So I’m back in the UK safe and sound. Arrived home last night and caught up with everyone so thought I had best fill you in too!

Before I flew away for a week I mentioned in Something New a French guy that I would be posting about, well here it is.

The Friday before I went away me and a few friends went to a sort of pub crawl music festival. We went to see a friends band play in one pub but then fancied something more clubby so we left and went to a “Club Culture” night at a different pub. Me and a friend where dancing and decided to go out for a smoke, outside I got talking to some guy about a book series that I’m reading, A Game of Thrones, we where discussing how amazing the character Jon Snow is and the whole time I noticed an attractive guy listening to what we where saying but he didn’t join in the conversation. Anyway, me and my friend went back inside and continued to dance. Thirsty work dancing, especially as my friend got us involved in a dance off with some random guy, so we went to the bar, and there he was. Somehow we started talking and he remained with us for the rest of the night, he was French, had been out with a friend but had lost him somewhere.

It turned out to be a very random night as we left the town we had started in and went to a different town 8 miles away where there was a club that me and my friends like to go to. He came with us and we had a great night, except for when it was time to leave, and my friend that I was out with was no where to be seen or found! Apparently when she’s rather drunk she can’t hear her phone either. So my other friend who was the designated driver took me and Frenchie back to mine and went off to find my friend who was rather successfully AWOL!

Me and Frenchie carried on talking and drinking at mine, waiting to hear from my missing friend. The alcohol ran out before we heard anything so we went to bed. Nothing happened, we just had a spoon and that was that, until the morning!

You know when you wake up and all of a sudden a panic hits you, well that happened! Yes this is my room, SHIT! Who’s arm is that? A few quick body checks, knickers check, shorts check, top…missing…fuck, Phone check Phew, back to missing top….FUCK. Then Frenchie woke up. Acting all casual as you do, even though your mind is screaming “Your boobs are out your boobs are out!”

We started talking, then he kissed me, after he said “I hope you don’t mind, as I wanted to kiss you last night, but I waited until now as we where dunk” I thought that was quite considerate, didn’t want to take advantage, but then it raised a question in my mind, what happened to my top?! Oh well. We continued talking and he was telling me how unlike the other girls he has met while living in the area, basically he called them all easy whore bags, considering I had no top on then what am I haha. Maybe I got hot in the night and forgot he was there who knows.

Anyway he suggested that we go for breakfast, it would have been lovely but I had to rush to get a train to London. So before I got up he was asking when he would see me again. Flash back to the mystery man, be careful now Sally my mind was saying. (Sally isn’t my name by the way)

So I got showered and ready and such, and dropped him off at home. He had written his number down for me so I text him mine an we where texting while I was out that day, the next day I flew out. I told him I’d text when I got back into the UK. I forgot, but this morning he text me, he’s invited me round to his this evening for a cup of tea. Oh I forgot to mention, I can’t remember his name, maybe I will find out tonight until then he’s Frenchie.

I’m keeping my options open, not putting all of my eggs in one basket and have a few fingers in a few pies. I’m taking my time, getting to know different people but after the mystery man I’m keeping my guard up with men from Europe, when I say Europe I mean the continent, didn’t have much luck with the Italian mystery man, lesson learned life.

I’ll keep you posted on the tea!

What’s Happened to Romance???

It seems to me that guys have got lazy and girls have got easy to suit, or is it the other way around? Girls have got easy so guys have are now lazy because they don’t have to work for it anymore! why would you work hard for what you really wanted if someone a few doors down is practically giving it away? Now, if a girl doesn’t give it up right away she is labelled “frigid” or she is playing hard to get, not worth the hassle, a “tease” that sort of thing! Its ridiculous!

Back in the day when my Grandad courted my Nan, they went to wartime dances, he walked her the 5 miles home and didn’t complain about the long walk, or walk her half way home then leave her to walk the rest of the way. If my Grandad had done that then my Nan’s brothers would have gone out and shown him what for! Growing up I remember them always being together, my Grandad was quite moody, he was the Grumpy Grandad, but in photos of them growing together they both had a sparkle in their eyes. They where married for a long time, until my Nan passed away in 1996.

They had a typical relationship of that time, when my nan died, My mum had to teach my Grandad how to cook, and my Nan’s older sister used to help him with house work. He had depended on her their whole relationship and he knew it, But he loved her and respected her for who she was and what she did for him. My Grandad worked hard to provide the family with a home, and my Nan looked after it, as well as having her own job, earning her own money until she was 61!

Men need to start realising that if they want something good, then they are going to have to start working for it! You don’t get a nice house or car if you don’t go to work, So why should they be able to get a nice girl, who is going to look after them for the rest of their life if they aren’t prepared to work for that to?

I know now that times have changed, and there are career woman, and house husbands, But I still feel like guys these days are expecting too much too soon. Is is that girls these days are more concerned with being labelled frigid or hard to get, then being called easy or a slut, slag or even worse a whore-bag! I know what I would prefer any day of the week!!

Girls need to start standing up to these lazy ass guys, and show have some self respect, get some understanding of their worth and power. We seem to forget that we have the control in life, we say yes or no, we decide if the guy is worthy of us. Why are we letting so many sleazy guys get their own way? 9 times out of 10 they aren’t even worth a second date, let alone our bodies. So why do we put up with it? Fear of being alone, left on the shelf? Feeling like we don’t deserve better? Well if we carry on the way we are going then we don’t.

If we are looking for the one that deserves us, that we are going to spend our lives with then don’t we want to be sure that they are worth it? I’m going to make them work for it.

I’m a prize that has to be won, I am worth more than a guy taking me to Nandos one time and on the second date expecting more than what’s on offer, Sorry mate but I’m worth more than 1/4 of a chicken with spicy rice and free refills! Got to work harder than that!

I want wining and dining, a bit of romancing I’m sure will go a long way seeing as these days no one does it anymore! Don’t take this as I’m saying I want a guy to come along and feel like he has to pay for everything, I’m more than willing to pay my own way but the thought of a bit of romance would be nice. Thank You Please!

From now on I am going to make a point of working out if he is worth it. I made my last mistake with My Mystery Man, and that isn’t happening again!!

Please ladies and gents, girls and guys! Realise that we are all someone’s prize. We don’t have to make it easy for them. Maybe if people worked harder at the start of their relationship they would be more prepared to work harder for it when things get tough, and I know that I only plan on getting married once in this lifetime, I want to know that my future husband will fight for me and our relationship when the time comes.

Go and play…. hard to get…. but make sure they know the prize is worth it and your not just playing games!

On my final note…. WHO RUNS THE WORLD??