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Chatting up men

So I thought if share a few of the wonderful lines I have used that gave been successful in initiating with some men.

“So Green eyes are we going out?”
– date arrangements in progress

To a Royal Marine commando who supports Manchester United
“So Man U aren’t doing too well are they? Oh well I’m sure you could kick their butts. You have great thighs by the way”


“Interesting about me,
Not everyone gets their boobs out and some people are busy with life not just a last resort haha, namely me. I’m certainly not stuck up my own ass but I can think of worse places to be haha” – to this he replied you certainly are opinionated, I like that. — hahaha. I like to think of it as passionate. He agreed, date plans are in the making 🙂

More Gold later 🙂

The Dating Rule Book?

I have been out on a few dates with M now, and even on our very first date he mentioned dating rules…

There are “rules” for everything these days, from how to survive a Zombie Apocalypse, The Skinny Girl Rules to Rules for online dating. I haven’t dated in the typical sense before, I usually have 3 dates and then either fall madly in love or become so terribly bored that I just delete the guy from existence. So, I am not sure of what normal dating is classed as. As I said, ever since Date 1 with M he has mentioned “dating rules”, and how he doesn’t understand them, or What is classed as breaking the rules? It has played on my mind ever since, and seeing as the other day he asked if I even liked him I am certain that I am not clued up on these dating rules, so it has made me think even more on what these dating rules might be, also if there are rules then does that mean that there is also a dating timeline?? If there is then I am screwed!

I’ve set about researching these so called “Dating Rules” and I have even come across a book, “The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right” – WOW This book really is something, below are the first 20 rules… FYI The parts in Italics, are my comments to said rules.

  1. Be a “Creature Unlike Any Other”    – What the hell does this mean? Be yourself?
  2. Don’t Talk to a Man First (and Don’t Ask Him to Dance) – These days your not likely to get anywhere with this one, especially if your searching online like me
  3. Don’t Stare at Men or Talk Too Much – If I think someone is attractive I cant help but stare, people naturally look at the most attractive thing in the room
  4. Don’t Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date- So pay for the whole thing or let him pay..
  5. Don’t Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls – most of my communication is done by text, M is terrible at texting back though so may have to call him instead from now on
  6. Always End Phone Calls First – Right so hang up half way through the conversation, got it
  7. Don’t Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday – What if I’m bored?
  8. Fill Up Your Time before the Date – Yeah usually takes me ages to get ready anyway
  9. How to Act on Dates 1, 2, and 3 – I need to read these chapters I think
  10. How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time – Why is she talking about commitment after date 5? Is this the dating timeline?
  11. Always End the Date First – Duh Its got to end at some point.
  12. Stop Dating Him if He Doesn’t Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine’s Day – My birthday is in September, that’s a long way off yet and certainly over 5 dates, so dump him because he got me a TV instead of a trip to Milian?
  13. Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week – That’s easy, I’m a busy girl you know!
  14. No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date – Sorted, but when is it OK to kiss?
  15. Don’t Rush into Sex and Other Rules for Intimacy – Wouldn’t dream of it (cough cough)
  16. Don’t Tell Him What to Do – Go against every fibre in my being? I’ll give it a shot
  17. Let Him Take the Lead – Got to love a man who is in charge
  18. Don’t Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him – Duh, stating the obvious there deary
  19. Don’t Open Up Too Fast – Why bother to open up at all? Or does she mean your legs?
  20. Be Honest but Mysterious – Don’t open up to fast, but be honest, and mysterious? What if he asks me something personal? wiggle my arms in front of his face and say “OOOO It’s a mystery” I’m sure he’d think that I was a right nutter and leg it!

I mean these are some of the rules according to one lady, Who is on husband number 2 I might add. To be honest, I don’t think much to them.

Me and M are getting ready for date 5 now, So there must be something in it otherwise why would we bother. Looking at those rules though, I’m already thinking, “Well broken some of those already”, To start with rule number 3 – broken! It was our first date, we sat opposite each other and my mother taught me to “Look people in the eye when they are talking to you!” also naturally there was a bit of Q&A going on so we both were talking. We didn’t kiss until date 3, but then on date 4 he questioned if I like him or not, so am I to think when we met on date 4 that I should have gone straight in for a pash kiss? I probably would have ended up tonguing his dog!

Taking all into consideration, I have decided to come up with my own dating rule’s!


Rule No2. Be HONEST about yourself. If your lazy but would like to do more then say, “I’d like to be more active”

Rule No3. SMILE. There is nothing better than seeing a great smile, and it makes your eyes sparkle too, very attractive.

Rule No4. Be CONSIDERATE. Don’t expect him to pay for everything. Although M has pretty much paid every time we have gone out, I have always offered, with the intention of actually paying, Don’t just pretend to want to pay. Or if you meet in car parks like we do, take it in turns to drive. I know sounds dodgy but I don’t know him well enough yet to tell him where live. Oh rule 5!

Rule No5. Be SAFE! Don’t take silly chances telling people where you live! He/She could be a psycho!

Rule No6. COMMUNICATE. This is where I am rubbish. I’m not great at showing my emotions all the time, clearly.

Rule No7. KISS when it feels right, why stop yourself from doing something if it feels like the right time to you.

Rule No8. SEX, again, when it feels right for you but best bet is to wait a few weeks just to make sure that your right for one another, Trust yourself and trust the other person, Too many times have I jumped in head first, only to end up cracking my head on the bottom of the shallow end of the pool! It may feel great at the start, but if its all passion its going to fizzle out eventually. Take time getting to know each other, and each others bodies, its more fun. When me and M were having a little cuddle albeit awkward cuddle while he was driving the other night, it felt nice feeling his hand cup my shoulder, or stroke my neck. Build up is GOOOOOD!

So far I have 8, but I think they are a good 8, and dating is hard enough as it is without having to remember all of these rules. I dare not even think about a dating timeline yet. Although I am considering inviting M around mine this weekend so I can see him before Christmas as I am working, and not sure when it will next happen, Going to show him some lovey dovey me is he does come round. Any tips on being affectionate would be greatly appreciated by the way.

Lets see how these rules work out then.  Ah stuff it, that’s Rule 5 of hers broken, I have just invited him for dinner! Haven’t heard from him today so I have initiated it but still, what’s the worst that can happen?!

Date 2 with M= Nando’s and Midnight Christmas Lights

Ok so I know I have previously slated a guy for asking me on a date to Nando’s but this one is different, honest.

Me and M had a good time on our first date as you may already know, we text often and we arranged to meet again after my class had finished last Wednesday, again. He met me after class and we had no plans, we both hadn’t eaten and he suggested Nando’s. I drove us to the nearest Nando’s which wasn’t too far away.
I can honestly say it’s the best meal that I have had at Nando’s.

His eating habits are faultless, which in my opinion goes a long way! He was polite, didn’t talk with his mouth full or anything. He told me all about his weekend in Wales and informed me that “We must go there” he actually said “you’d love it!” And to be honest it sounds like my sort of place! As he was telling me about it we started to discuss one of mine and Kate’s hobbies, I’ll come back to this later…

Anyway once we had finished eating, it was almost 11, we headed back to his car, he had suggested that we go for a drive. He knows the area much better than I do so he directed me round and took me to see some amazing houses with all of their Christmas lights on. It was so much fun! It amazes me how doing the simplest of things can be great fun

After the lights, it was about 12.30am now, As I was driving he decided to direct me to a place that he though me and Kate might enjoy. Unfortunately the place was all boarded up so we couldn’t get in to take a look around.

We had to call it a night as I was getting tired, I had been up since 6am and at work all day and then had my class. We got back to where he had parked had a little peck goodbye and that was all for then.

More to come with M

Day 1 Date 1 = L Shopping and Dinner

Yesterday L came to pick me up at around 2pm. We did consider going into London for the day, but to be honest I didnt have the energy so we decided to go to MK shopping instead. He a good boy really, I decided that I wanted to do my christmas shopping while we where out so he came all around the shops with me and didnt complain once. 

When we first started dating, well over 2 years ago now, I hated shopping, However since we departed I have apparently honed the shopping skills that every boyfriend hates. I can justify this, as I didn’t by myself one thing! I was tempted to by a lovely coat that has a gorgeous faux fur white collar! A text to ma soeur confirmed i was doing the right thing “It looks nice and warm, Not on the credit crd?” This one has to wait until pay day! haha!

After we had finished shopping we went to wagamama‘s It was lovely! I remember the first time we went to Wagamama’s had a lovely little feast where he photographed me sipping my Ramen from the traditional spoon! What a mess! Have you seen those things! Thank god he has seen me at my worst, that could have been a first date disaster! Good to know for the future though! Chilli Squid was divine also if you decide to go and haven’t tried it! To be honest I have never had a bad meal there and they give you plenty!

So after the shopping centre, I thought while we where near by we may as well go to Ikea! I just cant help myself when I know I am near an Ikea! As i have said I could quite happily live there! I bought some frames and happily framed my lonely prints when I got home.

L came in for a while, my house mate came home, she has met L before but still felt weird, I’m not sure if I told her I had been seeing him again or not as I have hardly seen her lately! Anyway we went upstairs to my room, Arranged my art and then watched some cartoons on my laptop, Just like old times 🙂 this time though, I’m enjoying it.

I’m not prepared to look into the reasons why I am enjoying it just yet but we’ll see

Date 2 Tonight with J