So I know I have only been on my dating site of choice for a short while, I’m talking to a few guys, with dates in planning, and 2 re-schedules, but how much activity should you be getting?
I’m not blowing my own trumpet but I’m far from ugly, I’m not the prettiest girl out there, or all fake looking, but some of the guys that I am attracting make me think, “Really?” either they are trying their luck and punching above their weight, or I am not as pretty as I thought. I am a nice girl, I have interests and hobbies, I work hard, I’m educated and I enjoy art and culture.
Here is a snippet from my profile…
“I like to travel to different places, from getting the train to London to see an exhibition or going off exploring the countryside on my bike or walking around English heritage sites. I also like the usual, going out with my friends, pubs, clubs and dining, or saying in relaxing, watching films, having marathon film days with with snacks, Going on random car journeys to the coast, exploring weird places… Lots of things really!”
I also write about the books and types of music that I like. How much is too much information? Do guys actually want to know this? Am I putting them off with an overload of information? Is it intimidating?
I’m honest in my profile, and I say what I am looking for, but going back to my post The Online Dating Rulebook? Should I be holding back on some things that I have included? On my profile I have the following… Is it to much?
“I like to think that I’m a fun and active person, but I wont lie, I’m not perky all the time. I love my friends and family, I’m settling into a new area, and I am happy in my day to day life, I’m not looking for a relationship that will become my life, I want one that will enhance it. I’m independent and I am a friendly and caring girl. If you want to know more, and get to know me better and think you could enhance my life then message me.”
I have a variety of photos on my profile, and I have to admit, they are some good ones of me looking fabulous, but aren’t everyone’s in this situation.
I get plenty of messages from all sorts of guys, a mixture of “AVERAGE” looking guys and of what I think are your typical looking HOT guys looking at my profile,The guys I would say are “Average” message me and some of them are really great, but the HOT guys just have a look and then that’s as far as it goes. I have messaged a few of the hot guys and had no reply, so they liked what they saw, but then something I said has put them off?
Or is it like this? I read something on one guys profile, he said that girls are like apples… I cant remember the exact words but it was something like this..
“Girls are like apples, The best ones are at the top of the tree and hard to reach, so the guys who pick them are scared to climb too high to get them in case they fall and end up getting hurt, so they go for the apples lower down, the rotten apples.” Is this the case do you think? I quite often see a great guy with a girl that I wouldn’t naturally put them with, and yeah I get a bit bitchy or the other way around, and I’m like Seriously, I’m nicer than her right?
Where am I going wrong? Its not all about looks, I know that, I’ve had a few experiences with guys that at the time I considered them to be, handsome, beautiful or amazing, but they have turned into frogs quite quickly killing my confidence. But seriously, I have a nice body, a nice face, and a great personality, I don’t want some over weight, middle aged, balding man messaging me, expecting me to take him seriously.
I don’t have a type and I wouldn’t rule anything out but obviously there are people that I find more attractive than others, and as I am looking for a lasting relationship, possibly the future father of my beautiful children and husband, there has to be some attraction there, (how else would we make babies), and good genes of course. I need a spark, something physical, we are all judging each other on face value, I’m getting the link from face to my profile and then loosing them!
Am I too high in the tree? Seriously though, what is it that’s putting them off? Or are they just looking for a quick hook up, a Miss Plastic Fantastic with a fake tan, fake hair, and fake nails?
I dont know! What I do know is, I’m talking to a really nice guy, who lives in a town near me and we are getting on great, I think he’s rather good looking, and he seems to have a good personality so I’m looking forward to seeing where this one goes as well!
Watch this space…