Monthly Archives: December 2013

SKOUT THIS!

I have recently re-downloaded this app called SKOUT. I first downloaded it back in around March April time. I remember as I was on nights, and while working and being extremely bored I got talking to this guy, who I thought was a lovely boy from San Diego. Boy was he dreamy. I Googled him of course and checked out his linkedin info, he seemed pretty legit and actually quite normal. We were talking A LOT for a while! We Skyped, emailed, called (well he called me) everyday. It was so strange, I felt as if I had an online boyfriend. I remember speaking to my mum about him, and I actually considered going over to see him, and worked out how much overtime I would need to do to pay for flights and accommodation. Anyway, turn’s out he’s a bit of a sociopath, got a bit possessive over me and when I questioned about whether he still went on the app he had a major eppi! Safe to say I deleted his cute american butt in an instant. Phew! That was a close one!

So….. Why have I re-downloaded this app? Well to be honest, Firstly, Boredom, secondly I have a major thing for Mediterranean guys and there appear to be loads of cute ones on this app! I know that I am dating M, but we haven’t discussed exclusivity and its only talking right? Well I’m Skyping with one as I type.

To the point then Watson! last night, I was chatting to some guy, It popped up saying he was new, and he was hot so I virtually winked at him 😉 If I could have sent a voice clip saying “Hello Sailor” then believe me I would have! I asked the usual, “why are you on here?” He just said “I’m looking for someone nice to talk to as meeting people in clubs these days isn’t the best way to go” and “I don’t do one night stands”, I mean come on, We have all heard that one before! Get some original materiel matey, anyone who wont admit to having a one night stand has to be lying! I know they aren’t great but they happen!

I decided to continue with the conversation just for the hell of it, wasn’t long before he started asking for photos, I clearly have photos on my profile, He wasn’t willing to share so neither was I! His excuse was that he was a commercial photographer, he was still at work and any photos that he took with his ipad would automatically upload to a sever for processing! I don’t own an ipad! in fact I would love a good old fashioned type writer, but then none of you lovelies would even know that I exist! Anyway, I continued to refuse to send photos, now using the excuse, How do I know they wont get uploaded for processing?! I ended the conversation there but, Later on, I got a message from him again, this time asking for a photo of my feet! And Do I have nice toes? Seriously? Is this site the new Craigslist or something??

I’m still deciding on if I should just delete it again, or keep it just for the giggles! I was intent on enjoying a nice Earl Grey and hopping into bed with my two hot water bottles this evening, but the foot guy inspired me!

Your thoughts on this would be good. May even create a whole page on my blog dedicated to the wonders of Skout!

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The Dating Rule Book?

I have been out on a few dates with M now, and even on our very first date he mentioned dating rules…

There are “rules” for everything these days, from how to survive a Zombie Apocalypse, The Skinny Girl Rules to Rules for online dating. I haven’t dated in the typical sense before, I usually have 3 dates and then either fall madly in love or become so terribly bored that I just delete the guy from existence. So, I am not sure of what normal dating is classed as. As I said, ever since Date 1 with M he has mentioned “dating rules”, and how he doesn’t understand them, or What is classed as breaking the rules? It has played on my mind ever since, and seeing as the other day he asked if I even liked him I am certain that I am not clued up on these dating rules, so it has made me think even more on what these dating rules might be, also if there are rules then does that mean that there is also a dating timeline?? If there is then I am screwed!

I’ve set about researching these so called “Dating Rules” and I have even come across a book, “The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right” – WOW This book really is something, below are the first 20 rules… FYI The parts in Italics, are my comments to said rules.

  1. Be a “Creature Unlike Any Other”    – What the hell does this mean? Be yourself?
  2. Don’t Talk to a Man First (and Don’t Ask Him to Dance) – These days your not likely to get anywhere with this one, especially if your searching online like me
  3. Don’t Stare at Men or Talk Too Much – If I think someone is attractive I cant help but stare, people naturally look at the most attractive thing in the room
  4. Don’t Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date- So pay for the whole thing or let him pay..
  5. Don’t Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls – most of my communication is done by text, M is terrible at texting back though so may have to call him instead from now on
  6. Always End Phone Calls First – Right so hang up half way through the conversation, got it
  7. Don’t Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday – What if I’m bored?
  8. Fill Up Your Time before the Date – Yeah usually takes me ages to get ready anyway
  9. How to Act on Dates 1, 2, and 3 – I need to read these chapters I think
  10. How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time – Why is she talking about commitment after date 5? Is this the dating timeline?
  11. Always End the Date First – Duh Its got to end at some point.
  12. Stop Dating Him if He Doesn’t Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine’s Day – My birthday is in September, that’s a long way off yet and certainly over 5 dates, so dump him because he got me a TV instead of a trip to Milian?
  13. Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week – That’s easy, I’m a busy girl you know!
  14. No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date – Sorted, but when is it OK to kiss?
  15. Don’t Rush into Sex and Other Rules for Intimacy – Wouldn’t dream of it (cough cough)
  16. Don’t Tell Him What to Do – Go against every fibre in my being? I’ll give it a shot
  17. Let Him Take the Lead – Got to love a man who is in charge
  18. Don’t Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him – Duh, stating the obvious there deary
  19. Don’t Open Up Too Fast – Why bother to open up at all? Or does she mean your legs?
  20. Be Honest but Mysterious – Don’t open up to fast, but be honest, and mysterious? What if he asks me something personal? wiggle my arms in front of his face and say “OOOO It’s a mystery” I’m sure he’d think that I was a right nutter and leg it!

I mean these are some of the rules according to one lady, Who is on husband number 2 I might add. To be honest, I don’t think much to them.

Me and M are getting ready for date 5 now, So there must be something in it otherwise why would we bother. Looking at those rules though, I’m already thinking, “Well broken some of those already”, To start with rule number 3 – broken! It was our first date, we sat opposite each other and my mother taught me to “Look people in the eye when they are talking to you!” also naturally there was a bit of Q&A going on so we both were talking. We didn’t kiss until date 3, but then on date 4 he questioned if I like him or not, so am I to think when we met on date 4 that I should have gone straight in for a pash kiss? I probably would have ended up tonguing his dog!

Taking all into consideration, I have decided to come up with my own dating rule’s!

Rule No1. Be YOURSELF

Rule No2. Be HONEST about yourself. If your lazy but would like to do more then say, “I’d like to be more active”

Rule No3. SMILE. There is nothing better than seeing a great smile, and it makes your eyes sparkle too, very attractive.

Rule No4. Be CONSIDERATE. Don’t expect him to pay for everything. Although M has pretty much paid every time we have gone out, I have always offered, with the intention of actually paying, Don’t just pretend to want to pay. Or if you meet in car parks like we do, take it in turns to drive. I know sounds dodgy but I don’t know him well enough yet to tell him where live. Oh rule 5!

Rule No5. Be SAFE! Don’t take silly chances telling people where you live! He/She could be a psycho!

Rule No6. COMMUNICATE. This is where I am rubbish. I’m not great at showing my emotions all the time, clearly.

Rule No7. KISS when it feels right, why stop yourself from doing something if it feels like the right time to you.

Rule No8. SEX, again, when it feels right for you but best bet is to wait a few weeks just to make sure that your right for one another, Trust yourself and trust the other person, Too many times have I jumped in head first, only to end up cracking my head on the bottom of the shallow end of the pool! It may feel great at the start, but if its all passion its going to fizzle out eventually. Take time getting to know each other, and each others bodies, its more fun. When me and M were having a little cuddle albeit awkward cuddle while he was driving the other night, it felt nice feeling his hand cup my shoulder, or stroke my neck. Build up is GOOOOOD!

So far I have 8, but I think they are a good 8, and dating is hard enough as it is without having to remember all of these rules. I dare not even think about a dating timeline yet. Although I am considering inviting M around mine this weekend so I can see him before Christmas as I am working, and not sure when it will next happen, Going to show him some lovey dovey me is he does come round. Any tips on being affectionate would be greatly appreciated by the way.

Lets see how these rules work out then.  Ah stuff it, that’s Rule 5 of hers broken, I have just invited him for dinner! Haven’t heard from him today so I have initiated it but still, what’s the worst that can happen?!


Two halves of One Soul

This weekend I am very much in love with the idea of true love.

Yesterday my sister married a boy she met at university. They started as friends for many years until he started to ignore her, She didn’t like it and after 2/3 years they are now married. After 13 years of perseverance on his part, they are now starting their life together as husband and wife.

The whole day was beautiful, I’ve never been more excited in my life and I think it will be hard to top, maybe my own wedding one day.

When I think of my sister and her new husband I’m reminded of a tale by Aristophanes, he once said that humans had four legs, four arms and two heads, the gods were scared of the great power that humans possessed and they were threatened by their power so he split them in half, creating humans as we are today, cursing us to search the world over for our other half, I believe that my sister has found her other half, they are two halves of the same soul who have found each other and are destined to spend the rest of their lives together as a whole.

Seeing them together and the glow that surrounded both of them makes me feel warm in my core. The love I felt yesterday has renewed my faith in love. My sister has been positively glowing for the last year, and the look in my new brothers eyes when they were stood in the isle made me cry. He looked like a child, engulfed in happiness and I could hear my sister giggling, they were like children on Christmas Day.

I love them both so much I thought I’d change my whole topic just for them. And as my new brother claims to be my most avid reader, then this one is for you loops 🙂

Happy honeymoon

Xxxx

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Date 3 with M – At the Drive through

So last Sunday, not the Sunday just gone, I saw M again. I finished work early and we had decided that we would do something over the weekend. I hadn’t been feeling well for most if the week and subsequently lost 5lbs. Yay me!

We met at the usual spot, in a car park and he got in my car. He was hungry so we went to the MacDonalds drive through, nice and easy. We sat in the car park to eat and decide what to do. Who said romance is dead!

He was coming up with some really fun ideas, Ice skating in Cambridge, skiing in Milton Keynes, jumping on the train to Winter Wonderland where just a few of his ideas. I however was getting over a particularly nasty flu jab so didn’t feel up to much. He suggested that we go to top golf, I’d never heard of it, it was the most fun ever!

The last time that I held a golf club was many years ago when my family and I went to a driving range in Harrow for my birthday. I had so much fun though! The aim of top golf is to hit the ball into a target to get points. I wasn’t very good but I enjoyed the lessons I was receiving from M, note.

After top golf we headed back to my car but we carried on driving! We drove way past my car, my home, and just drove into the night, talking and discussing our favourite classical composers.

I did suggest that he came back to mine so we could watch a DVD or something but as we got closer to my car I became extremely tired so we decided to call it a night.

I’m writing this now as I am seeing him tonight. We were meant to be going to Winter Wonderland tonight but he has not long finished work so we are doing something else instead! Shall post again tomorrow.

Here us a song that played during our drive. A little bit of Romeo and Juliet for you!


Date 2 with M= Nando’s and Midnight Christmas Lights

Ok so I know I have previously slated a guy for asking me on a date to Nando’s but this one is different, honest.

Me and M had a good time on our first date as you may already know, we text often and we arranged to meet again after my class had finished last Wednesday, again. He met me after class and we had no plans, we both hadn’t eaten and he suggested Nando’s. I drove us to the nearest Nando’s which wasn’t too far away.
I can honestly say it’s the best meal that I have had at Nando’s.

His eating habits are faultless, which in my opinion goes a long way! He was polite, didn’t talk with his mouth full or anything. He told me all about his weekend in Wales and informed me that “We must go there” he actually said “you’d love it!” And to be honest it sounds like my sort of place! As he was telling me about it we started to discuss one of mine and Kate’s hobbies, I’ll come back to this later…

Anyway once we had finished eating, it was almost 11, we headed back to his car, he had suggested that we go for a drive. He knows the area much better than I do so he directed me round and took me to see some amazing houses with all of their Christmas lights on. It was so much fun! It amazes me how doing the simplest of things can be great fun

After the lights, it was about 12.30am now, As I was driving he decided to direct me to a place that he though me and Kate might enjoy. Unfortunately the place was all boarded up so we couldn’t get in to take a look around.

We had to call it a night as I was getting tired, I had been up since 6am and at work all day and then had my class. We got back to where he had parked had a little peck goodbye and that was all for then.

More to come with M


Day 7 Date 7 – Cinema with J

So on the seventh day of my week of dating I ended up going back out with J. After a busy week I didn’t feel like doing much to be honest but I was bored so we went to the cinema to see Carrie.

There’s not much to say really, the film was ok, we couldn’t talk but safe to say that the spark wasn’t there. When he dropped me off I didn’t feel like giving him a little kiss or anything so J ended on Sunday night.

Was about time to trim the fat anyway. I haven’t text him and he hasn’t text me, I’m not bothered as I’ve had much more fun with M since. Plus Kate said he is a bit of a weirdo. I mean seriously going to bingo weekly with your mum? It’s ok if your a girl!

Short and sweet but to the point!

More on M soon!

Xoxo


Day 4 & 5 Dates Faye & Kate

So in my week of dates, I couldn’t imagine spending every night with a different man. So I had 2 girlie nights with 2 of my best female friends.

Girl Date 1 – Faye
Thursday I went back home and saw my oldest friend and my beautiful little god daughter. We went into town and saw the Christmas lights, the 3 of us went for a lovely lunch and did some shopping.
Im so lucky I didn’t get a parking fine! I parked in the mother and baby parking at a supermarket in the town centre, but trying to keep everything organised and keep hold of the little one I forgot to get a parking ticket! I only realised this as we were walking back to the car! I scooped up my little princess and ran back, luckily, no ticket!
We then went into the supermarket and went to get some shopping and a bottle of wine and some dinner for once bedtime came for princess.
When she finally went to bed we cracked opened the wine, put on a face mask and turned the music on low. We had such a laugh, we somehow ended up twerking to some dancehall which took us back 10 years in an instant! Faye is great at twerking while standing, I however only seem to be able to twerk upside down!
Unfortunately, Faye ended up pulling a muscle in her shoulder, No more twerking for us! Got some funny videos though!
On Friday, we took our sweet time getting ourselves sorted, not blaming the wine or injury, but we ended up going shopping for new outfits for the weekend!

Girl Date 2 – Kate
So on the way back to my house, I stopped via Kates, picked her up, we went via the off license and then headed back to mine to get ready for a night out in Chavsville.
I live getting ready for nights out with Kate! We always have such a giggle!
We got to the place and got a drink, it was dead so I had ordered a single, in true form to myself before the barman took my money I asked him to make it a double!
I ended up talking to this guy, Kate bought me shots, bad idea! From sitting at a table in a club to waking up at home home alone in my pyjamas I do not remember a thing!
Normally, this would be a great thing however, I was not meant to be waking up alone. I got up and searched my house, keys, bag, phone, Kate?

Where’s Kate?

Looked at my phone, missed calls, texts, a few calls to my ex, none to casual thank god? Anyway I had a text from Kate, giving me a number, telling me to call it until someone answered so I could go and pick her up when I woke up!

At least she was safe!

Anyway as usual, had a great time. I went to collect Kate from “Kevin’s” (this was what I called him, although it’s not his name) we went to MacDonalds and back to mine and HUNG out on my sofa until the afternoon.

Then it was time to get ready for…

Day 6 Saturday, Date 6 – L