This blog is called The Diary of a Serial Relationship Seeker so the context of this post should be pretty straight forward…
Do relationships at work, work?
I spend 12.5 hours a day, 14 days a month at work minimum, but sometimes I feel like I spend my whole life there! As you may already know I’ve recently moved to a new area so I spend lots of time socialising with my colleagues as I don’t know many other people around here. It’s hard to keep away.
I’m not looking for a relationship with a colleague, but I know quite a few people who’s relationships started or that met through work. We do tend to pop off down the pub after a particularly hard day, and I’m starting to realise how easy it would be to fall bed or a relationship with someone from work.
I have been at my place of employment for 18 months, and been out on a few dates with two guys that I work with, one had far too many grey hairs, and the other, well, have you read Keeping it Casual? That’s him. Only 2 of my best friends and my housemate and her boyfriend know about us. So we have managed to keep it under wraps somehow.
My place of work is a complete gossip mill and it is also a bit insestual. My housemate met her boyfriend there, There are secret affairs going on that everyone hears about between people, So and so go caught in the gym sleeping with her from there, that kind of thing!
How does it all work? I am quite a private person, despite being so forthcoming, I do talk a lot, but its my life so I am allowed to, what I cant stand is people talking about me. If I wanted to discuss my business then that is down to me, I am actually shocked that no one has found out about me and casual, I guess I’m trusting the right people at the moment with my secrets! Yay.
Anyway, The only people I have surrounding me are people that I work with. Take Friday for example, I came home from work, at 8.30, got my pj’s on, opened up a bottle of wine and posted Too High In the Tree? around 10pm, I got a call from a guy that I work with inviting me out, he eventually talked me into it, and came and picked me up. What was supposed to be a few drinks turned into multiple gins, shots, bud’s and god knows what else, and only getting an hours sleep before going back to work!
I ended up walking back with his housemate (who also works where we do.) Other people where already back at there’s by the time we got back, they had driven passed us in a taxi, Thanks for that! and I don’t actually remember drinking any more but me and his housemate went to his room and remained there until we both had to get up for work. He’s a cuddler! Haha! We had a good night, and I really enjoyed myself, it was worth only getting 1 hour of sleep, I just hope people at work don’t find out.
Over the last few day’s I have heard nothing about myself, so, so far so good. It was what it was and I wont rule out that it wont happen again. Sociable lot at my place. But just having a drunken night of fun is different to a relationship. I would say it seems safer to have a drunken fumble with someone you work with over a random as at least you know you will see them again, and you know who they are, but at the same time it still has its own dangers. Everyone finds out about it, It was a really bad experience and not worth the embarrassment , or worse, they think of it differently than what you do or they start acting like a complete tool and start blowing you off, even though before you had got on really well.
Why does having sex change everything most of the time?
Over the sad years of my love life, crying my eyes out because he hasn’t called yet, or because he disappeared (See The Mystery Man) I have recently developed the ability to get over things rather quickly, or even better, see things for what they are/will be. A very lovely girl that I know and work with, and would call one of my best friends has had trouble in her love life just like me. Unfortunately she hasn’t developed my ability yet, She also claims to be a pessimist (she clearly isn’t) Anyway, she called me her anchor today and it mad me realise, when did my emotions become so stable?
Why is it that I am able to give advice to people yet struggle most of the time with my own emotions. Well maybe that’s because your heart has a mind of its own and basically screams SCREW YOU!!! Brain and logic I’m doing it my way! Then when it all goes wrong it goes crawling back with a, please don’t say I told you so look on it’s face!
I figure that life is to short to worry about where you find love, I think my options at the moment are limited. Dating online or dating at work. I think more girlie nights out are needed to broaden my options… Roll in the weekend!! 🙂